It's divorced, undercommitted and hopelessly out of touch with monogamy. Why? Because, since the day they were born, members of the modern generation have been taught to postpone marriage indefinitely or ignore it altogether, as though marriage had no bearing on their happiness, as though it were a nice idea or nice accompaniment to an otherwise satisfying life.
But if flying solo is so great, why are people Match.com-ing on their lunch breaks and eHarmony-ing on the subway ride home? Why are women standing in the grocery aisles hoping to bring home a husband rather than a head of lettuce?
Sure, being single is fun – for a while. But most people don’t want to stay single forever. Men and women are irrevocably drawn to one another. Since the beginning of time, this attraction has been the driving force of our survival as a species and, until recent decades, has almost always resulted in lasting marriage.
In "How to Choose a Husband," author Suzanne Venker tells the truth we’re all trying to ignore: Americans don’t know what it takes to get – and stay – married.
Too many people want marriage to be something it’s not; and when it doesn’t measure up, they become antsy and dissatisfied. Some have affairs, and some get divorced – all in search for something better, something more meaningful or something more exciting. But if you want a certain kind of marriage, says Venker, it doesn’t just happen. You have to be willing to create it.
A one-time divorcee, Venker has been happily remarried for 15 years and has two children, ages 9 and 12. And she has a message for the women of America: Choosing the right husband is the single most important decision you’ll ever make in your lifetime. But it’s only step one.
After that, it’s all in your attitude.
About the Author
A teacher-turned-social critic, Suzanne Venker is, first and foremost, a wife and mother of two school-age children. She is also the author of three books. Her third, "How to Choose a Husband (and Make Peace With Marriage)," will be published February 2013.
Venker is a frequent guest on HuffPo Live and an occasional contributor to National Review Online. She has appeared on ABC, CNN, FOX and C-Span – as well as hundreds of radio shows throughout the country, including "The Laura Ingraham Show." Her articles and posts have appeared in the New York Post and the St. Louis Post-Dispatch, as well as on Parents.com, Human Events, WND, CNSNews.com and other websites. She also had a personal blog for a year and a half called No Bull Mom.
Her work tends toward the provocative – as evidenced by her books “The Flipside of Feminism” (WND Books, 2011), an explosive account on the damage left in the wake of the feminist movement, and "7 Myths of Working Mothers" (Spence Publishing, 2004), which argues that young children and demanding careers are incompatible. In 2007, "7 Myths" became available in Europe.
Venker graduated from Boston University in 1990 and now lives in St. Louis, Mo., with her husband and their two children. She has been profiled in the Webster-Kirkwood Times and the Riverfront Times of St. Louis.
WND Books: February 5, 2013
Dimensions: 6 x 9
Page Count: 170
Print ISBN: 9781936488582
eBook ISBN: 9781936488957
"The War on Men"
Over the last four decades, America has witnessed a profound change in marriage and gender relations—for the worse. And while there are definitely a handful of reasons for the fractured family unit, the most significant phenomenon to rupture marriage was feminism. In the span of a few short decades, the movement managed to demote its men from respected providers and protectors of the family to superfluous buffoons.
To a large segment of the population, the idea that men can be victims at all is preposterous. “Everyone” knows there’s more work to be done for women to achieve so-called equality. “Everyone” knows the patriarchy is alive and well.
But Americans have been had. Feminism isn’t about equal rights, nor is it about providing women with choices. I don’t care how pretty feminists package their agenda—the mission is clear: Feminism is a war on men.
It’s time to say what no one else will: the sexual revolution was a disaster. Modern men have no respect for modern women and vice versa. Marriage has turned into a competition rather than a partnership. Dating is defunct and any reference to gender differences is met with skepticism or outright derision. Post-feminist America thinks males and females are virtually identical. We’ve become genderless.
To end the war on men, women must stop clamoring for something we already have—and have had for quite some time: equality. They must adopt the mantra “equal, but different.
Men and women have been equally blessed with amazing and unique qualities that each brings to the table. Isn’t it time we stopped fussing about who brought what and just enjoy the feast?
A former teacher-turned-social critic, Suzanne Venker is an author and speaker on politics, marriage, parenting, and the culture. A well-known commentator on cultural issues, Suzanne has appeared on ABC, CNN, FOX, Huff-Po Live and C-Span—as well as hundreds of radio shows throughout the country, including the Laura Ingraham Show. Her previous books include "How to Choose a Husband", "The Flipside of Feminism", and "7 Myths of Working Mothers".
Pub Date: January 25, 2013
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